I was having a deep conversation with a friend recently, and we found ourselves saying something we’ve both known for years. Something every woman carries and battles within her:
So many of us were born into systems that automatically shrink women.
It starts early.
We’re taught — through culture, religion, tradition, and even the expectations of other women — to dim our light. We’re told that being too loud, too ambitious, or too visible is somehow wrong.
So we go on the path that culture, society, and those who came before us have carved out for us without questioning it.
That our worth is tied to getting married, having kids, and serving the home. While this is great, over time, many women begin to lose themselves. Their dreams and ambitions, and the things that truly light them up.
But here’s what I want you to hear loud and clear today:
“You may not have chosen the system you were born into, but you can choose to change your narrative.“
You can choose to unlearn the story that told you to fit into that role and maintain it even though you feel deep within that there’s more out there for you.
You can decide to question the beliefs that have kept you small.
You can begin building the confidence to live fully — as your whole self.
Confidence isn’t a personality trait. It’s a process.
It’s built when you show up for yourself, when you speak even with shaking hands, when you say yes to opportunities that scare you — and no to anything that reduces you.
“Confidence isn’t a personality trait. It’s a process.“
It’s built every time you choose healing, wholeness, and growth over silence, shame, and invisibility.
I’m not saying it’s easy, But it is worth it.
The truth is, the world isn’t designed to empower women — especially not women who are bold, clear, and self-aware.
They are going to tell you they “your own is too much” “ who does she think she is?”
But they are also going to love you for showing up powerfully!
But we’re not waiting for permission anymore.
You are allowed to take up space.
You are allowed to have dreams that aren’t centered around sacrifice.
You are allowed to be powerful, even if it makes others uncomfortable.
“The truth is, the world isn’t designed to empower women —
especially not women who are bold, clear, and self-aware.
Remember you have to set the precedence for your kids to follow- they’re watching you!
So if you’ve been feeling lost in motherhood, culture, or expectations, this is your reminder:
You’re still in there.
And you have every right to come back home to yourself.
Keep choosing you. Keep showing up. Keep breaking the rules that never served you.
The world needs more women who remember who they are — and refuse to
Stay small
